Sunday, May 13, 2007
The World According To Frank
It is not often that I comment on the goings on in the real world, including those involving spankos in the real world. Today, however, I feel compelled to lend my perspective to a particular happening that has somewhat shaken up the so-called “spanking community.”
It appears that one Katie Spades, the self-proclaimed “Princess of Spanking,” who hosted her own, entertaining blog, has starred in several self-made spanking videos, and was recently a guest on the Howard Stern Show, is not really a spanko. Furthermore, she appears to have adopted her spanking tendencies only to obtain publicity for a career in acting and modeling, and to make money.
To the first allegation, that she was not really a spanko, I say, “Hmmm…..”
To the second, my response would be, “Duh!”
And yet, there appears to be an outcry against this young lady, calling her a fraud, a scam artist, and a whore. It seems that many people are angry and betrayed that she told an interviewer from that culture-advancing web site, beer.com, that she only entered the spanking “scene” as a way to generate income, that she didn’t really like being spanked, and that she found the whole experience “foul.” She has deleted her spanking blog, and her spanking videos and pictures. Now, according to her web site, katiespades.com, Miss Spades is quite ill and has accumulated a considerable debt in medical bills. The young lady is asking for donations from her readers. Many are taking this to be yet another attempt to swindle an unsuspecting public out of their hard-earned cash.
We “true” spankos can be a fickle lot.
However, we really need to just get over ourselves.
First and foremost, who of us in the spanko blogging community is truly who we say we are? Take, for example, Fantastic Spanking, this particular little work of mine. It is a work of fiction, a total sham, completely made up, including yours truly. Why? Well, probably the author wishes for an outlet for his creativity and a vehicle for exploring his interest in spanking, yet does not care to make this interest known to those around him. He has chosen the internet as his tool primarily because of its potential for anonymity. How many of you share your spanking proclivity with your friends, your parents, your kids, even your spouses? Despite our open-mindedness, we are afraid that those who are less open-minded will judge us harshly, calling us sick, perverted, or worse. So we invent little spanking personas that we present on the internet. Depending on the person, that persona may bear a lot or a little likeness to the real person. However, they are all carefully tailored so that only items that the author wants to share are presented, leaving us to our imaginations to fill in the blanks. Was Katie Spades really any different than the rest of us? I think that her largest misjudgment was to perhaps be somewhat too forthcoming.
Second, why do we read spanking blogs? For entertainment, of course. It fills a void in our world. We choose not to share our hobby with most of those around us, yet we are able to still share our thoughts, our experiences, and our interests with those similarly inclined. So we read Katie’s blog for just that reason. She was pretty, she had a pleasant, breezy writing style, and she looked good with a red butt. If we were looking for more than that, people, we were looking in the wrong place.
Thirdly, why in the name of all of the gods and goddesses would anyone want to be captured in the video form whilst being spanked, and then have said recording sold to the general public? Well, for the money, of course. If they just want people to enjoy the videos for their aesthetic or artistic value, they wouldn’t charge for them. This is not a crime. It is called capitalism. Does this make all “spanking models” disingenuous whores or scam artists? Absolutely not. Allow me to pose the question somewhat differently. Why do I work for a large, multinational technology company who doesn’t really give a flying fart for their employees except insofar as they affect the bottom line? Well, for the money, of course. While I may hold an interest in making computers work for others, if I could quit tomorrow and be a teacher or centerfielder for a professional baseball team, with the same opportunity and the same pay and benefits, I would. Does that make me a disingenuous whore? Well, in all honesty, probably slightly more so than the afore-mentioned spanking models, but I’ll leave that for you to judge. If someone likes having their bottom struck repeatedly, and wants to make a little money at it, more power to them. No one is forcing anyone to pay for spanking videos. Was Katie Spades really wrong for allowing herself to be recorded being spanked, and then selling said recordings, even though she did not really find pleasure in those spankings? I, for one, think not. Are her spanking videos really any different now than they were when she first sold them? No. They still just show a pretty girl being spanked. People didn’t buy her videos because they thought Katie was such a great person, just like people didn’t buy the DVD of the movie Ishtar even though they were fans of Dustin Hoffman or Warren Beatty.
I fear that I have spent a smidge more time ranting than I should have, so I should now sum up. People, lighten up. Did any of you see the final episode of the television series, “Rosanne”? At the end of that show, after spending the entire season describing her life after she had won the lottery, the scene faded to Rosanne writing in a dimly-lit room. It turned out that the whole lottery thing was a fiction. What really happened was that her husband had died of a heart attack in the final episode from the previous season, and she was struggling to make ends meet while taking care of her three kids plus a grandchild. The final season reflected a book that she was writing. Of course, what is “real” and what is “fiction” in a situation comedy that is itself fictional? Obviously, it’s all fictional. Did I feel betrayed at the end of that final episode. No, I just thought it was a stupid way to end a pretty good show. But it was Rosanne’s show, and she could end it any way she wanted to.
Katie may have said some impolite things about us spankos, and she was wrong to do so. But is she really a fraud? The truth is that she probably is a young lady exploring her sexuality, something that we all do. She chose to combine that with a way to meet some of her life’s goals. She found that she didn’t really like being spanked, so she gave it up. She was embarrassed and afraid of what other people might think of her, so she deleted all traces of this from the internet. She used the beer.com interview to distance herself with that part of her life. How many of us have made some impulsive choices that seemed reasonable at the time but with which we are embarrassed now? Yours truly is holding his hand up high, as is his creator (the author, not God). Many, if not all, of you likely are, too. We are all not really that different from Katie Spades.
And what of her effort to collect money for her growing medical bills? Is this a fraudulent claim? I do not know. I do believe that she has a mental illness, probably a bi-polar disorder. Many of the symptoms appear to be there. This alone could account for considerable expense to treat. Will I be sending her a donation? No, I’m afraid not. I do not give money to people to defray personal debts unless I know them very well, and even then I am reluctant. I suspect most people feel the same way. My efforts to collect donations to offset my own, admittedly self-serving, expenses have met with exactly zero success. Besides, my money would do Katie no good because it is imaginary.
So please allow Miss Spades the right to be imperfect. And, my friends, please try to not be so quick to rush to judgment. We all have our faults and we all have our secrets, even I, and I don’t even exist. This is as it should be. And enjoy these blogs for what they are … a little relief to the dreariness of every day. If one of the writers turns out to not quite be what you thought they were, chalk it up to experience. Until, or if, you know the entire story, please give people the benefit of the doubt. If you enjoyed what Katie gave us, that’s all that really matters. My friends, for those of us who are now and forever spankos, is time to move on to our next spanking.
It appears that one Katie Spades, the self-proclaimed “Princess of Spanking,” who hosted her own, entertaining blog, has starred in several self-made spanking videos, and was recently a guest on the Howard Stern Show, is not really a spanko. Furthermore, she appears to have adopted her spanking tendencies only to obtain publicity for a career in acting and modeling, and to make money.To the first allegation, that she was not really a spanko, I say, “Hmmm…..”
To the second, my response would be, “Duh!”
And yet, there appears to be an outcry against this young lady, calling her a fraud, a scam artist, and a whore. It seems that many people are angry and betrayed that she told an interviewer from that culture-advancing web site, beer.com, that she only entered the spanking “scene” as a way to generate income, that she didn’t really like being spanked, and that she found the whole experience “foul.” She has deleted her spanking blog, and her spanking videos and pictures. Now, according to her web site, katiespades.com, Miss Spades is quite ill and has accumulated a considerable debt in medical bills. The young lady is asking for donations from her readers. Many are taking this to be yet another attempt to swindle an unsuspecting public out of their hard-earned cash.
We “true” spankos can be a fickle lot.
However, we really need to just get over ourselves.
First and foremost, who of us in the spanko blogging community is truly who we say we are? Take, for example, Fantastic Spanking, this particular little work of mine. It is a work of fiction, a total sham, completely made up, including yours truly. Why? Well, probably the author wishes for an outlet for his creativity and a vehicle for exploring his interest in spanking, yet does not care to make this interest known to those around him. He has chosen the internet as his tool primarily because of its potential for anonymity. How many of you share your spanking proclivity with your friends, your parents, your kids, even your spouses? Despite our open-mindedness, we are afraid that those who are less open-minded will judge us harshly, calling us sick, perverted, or worse. So we invent little spanking personas that we present on the internet. Depending on the person, that persona may bear a lot or a little likeness to the real person. However, they are all carefully tailored so that only items that the author wants to share are presented, leaving us to our imaginations to fill in the blanks. Was Katie Spades really any different than the rest of us? I think that her largest misjudgment was to perhaps be somewhat too forthcoming.
Second, why do we read spanking blogs? For entertainment, of course. It fills a void in our world. We choose not to share our hobby with most of those around us, yet we are able to still share our thoughts, our experiences, and our interests with those similarly inclined. So we read Katie’s blog for just that reason. She was pretty, she had a pleasant, breezy writing style, and she looked good with a red butt. If we were looking for more than that, people, we were looking in the wrong place.
Thirdly, why in the name of all of the gods and goddesses would anyone want to be captured in the video form whilst being spanked, and then have said recording sold to the general public? Well, for the money, of course. If they just want people to enjoy the videos for their aesthetic or artistic value, they wouldn’t charge for them. This is not a crime. It is called capitalism. Does this make all “spanking models” disingenuous whores or scam artists? Absolutely not. Allow me to pose the question somewhat differently. Why do I work for a large, multinational technology company who doesn’t really give a flying fart for their employees except insofar as they affect the bottom line? Well, for the money, of course. While I may hold an interest in making computers work for others, if I could quit tomorrow and be a teacher or centerfielder for a professional baseball team, with the same opportunity and the same pay and benefits, I would. Does that make me a disingenuous whore? Well, in all honesty, probably slightly more so than the afore-mentioned spanking models, but I’ll leave that for you to judge. If someone likes having their bottom struck repeatedly, and wants to make a little money at it, more power to them. No one is forcing anyone to pay for spanking videos. Was Katie Spades really wrong for allowing herself to be recorded being spanked, and then selling said recordings, even though she did not really find pleasure in those spankings? I, for one, think not. Are her spanking videos really any different now than they were when she first sold them? No. They still just show a pretty girl being spanked. People didn’t buy her videos because they thought Katie was such a great person, just like people didn’t buy the DVD of the movie Ishtar even though they were fans of Dustin Hoffman or Warren Beatty.
I fear that I have spent a smidge more time ranting than I should have, so I should now sum up. People, lighten up. Did any of you see the final episode of the television series, “Rosanne”? At the end of that show, after spending the entire season describing her life after she had won the lottery, the scene faded to Rosanne writing in a dimly-lit room. It turned out that the whole lottery thing was a fiction. What really happened was that her husband had died of a heart attack in the final episode from the previous season, and she was struggling to make ends meet while taking care of her three kids plus a grandchild. The final season reflected a book that she was writing. Of course, what is “real” and what is “fiction” in a situation comedy that is itself fictional? Obviously, it’s all fictional. Did I feel betrayed at the end of that final episode. No, I just thought it was a stupid way to end a pretty good show. But it was Rosanne’s show, and she could end it any way she wanted to.
Katie may have said some impolite things about us spankos, and she was wrong to do so. But is she really a fraud? The truth is that she probably is a young lady exploring her sexuality, something that we all do. She chose to combine that with a way to meet some of her life’s goals. She found that she didn’t really like being spanked, so she gave it up. She was embarrassed and afraid of what other people might think of her, so she deleted all traces of this from the internet. She used the beer.com interview to distance herself with that part of her life. How many of us have made some impulsive choices that seemed reasonable at the time but with which we are embarrassed now? Yours truly is holding his hand up high, as is his creator (the author, not God). Many, if not all, of you likely are, too. We are all not really that different from Katie Spades.
And what of her effort to collect money for her growing medical bills? Is this a fraudulent claim? I do not know. I do believe that she has a mental illness, probably a bi-polar disorder. Many of the symptoms appear to be there. This alone could account for considerable expense to treat. Will I be sending her a donation? No, I’m afraid not. I do not give money to people to defray personal debts unless I know them very well, and even then I am reluctant. I suspect most people feel the same way. My efforts to collect donations to offset my own, admittedly self-serving, expenses have met with exactly zero success. Besides, my money would do Katie no good because it is imaginary.
So please allow Miss Spades the right to be imperfect. And, my friends, please try to not be so quick to rush to judgment. We all have our faults and we all have our secrets, even I, and I don’t even exist. This is as it should be. And enjoy these blogs for what they are … a little relief to the dreariness of every day. If one of the writers turns out to not quite be what you thought they were, chalk it up to experience. Until, or if, you know the entire story, please give people the benefit of the doubt. If you enjoyed what Katie gave us, that’s all that really matters. My friends, for those of us who are now and forever spankos, is time to move on to our next spanking.
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Interesting commentary, Frank. I imagine the reason for so much of the outrage was the insult handed out (the experience was foul), and the appeal for donations for the "medical bills." Definitely time to move on, in any case. I was interested in your thoughts that she might suffer from a bi-polar disorder---if that is the case, I can feel sorry for her, but still won't give her any money!
Hugs,
Kallisto
Hugs,
Kallisto
Most people... including spankos... like fiction. We've posted several fictional spanking stories. We enjoy your writing, enough so that we enthusiastically link to your blog. Fiction and fantasy are wonderful things.
Being "manipulated"... and then hearing the manipulator crow about how clever she is... is a lot less wonderful though. And then when that same manipulator says she really needs money, because THIS TIME she is telling the exact truth... well, it's hard to swallow.
Hopefully Katie can be a productive adult, that lives a happy life. Her decision to outright lie for profit though... was a big mistake. Money is cool, but some things are worth more.
~Todd & Suzy
Being "manipulated"... and then hearing the manipulator crow about how clever she is... is a lot less wonderful though. And then when that same manipulator says she really needs money, because THIS TIME she is telling the exact truth... well, it's hard to swallow.
Hopefully Katie can be a productive adult, that lives a happy life. Her decision to outright lie for profit though... was a big mistake. Money is cool, but some things are worth more.
~Todd & Suzy
# posted by 
: May 14, 2007 1:48 PM
: May 14, 2007 1:48 PM
K, T. and S -
Thank-you for your thoughtful comments. I would agree that Miss Spades has perhaps "cried wolf" one too many times, and that using her web site to ask for money for medical bills is bad form.
Financial issues aside, one of the most important human qualities is forgiveness. Your initial anger is understandable. Now it is time to give Miss Spades a good example to emulate by showing some forgiveness. She did make a mistake. Let's show her that we are bigger people, and perhaps she will become one, too.
Regards,
Frank
Thank-you for your thoughtful comments. I would agree that Miss Spades has perhaps "cried wolf" one too many times, and that using her web site to ask for money for medical bills is bad form.
Financial issues aside, one of the most important human qualities is forgiveness. Your initial anger is understandable. Now it is time to give Miss Spades a good example to emulate by showing some forgiveness. She did make a mistake. Let's show her that we are bigger people, and perhaps she will become one, too.
Regards,
Frank
Hi, Frank:
Well. what can I say?
Katie did something that can anger, but you're right about forgiveness. (I'd give her a good spanking..but, it seems she enjoys it too much!)
Anyway, I know that when I was ill, she sent me lot's of warm regards; she truly cared. And, I recipricated, by doing some photoshop's of her..She has always been very kind, and has followed my off & on again Journey, here at Blogger.
It's hard to be angry at her. She's obviously feeling her oats. I don't know how much of her business is a "come-on"..I just know, that I can forgive her "lies"
My feeling are very mixed.
I'm leaning towards forgiveness, but, like others, I will not send her money. I don't believe she's ill. She is studying in the Medical profession. It would be very easy, if this is true, to find a doctor, or ER, or treatment, without paying a dime.
They HAVE to treat you (that's the LAW)
Cheers,
res~~(i'll be back, sometime, I hope)
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Well. what can I say?
Katie did something that can anger, but you're right about forgiveness. (I'd give her a good spanking..but, it seems she enjoys it too much!)
Anyway, I know that when I was ill, she sent me lot's of warm regards; she truly cared. And, I recipricated, by doing some photoshop's of her..She has always been very kind, and has followed my off & on again Journey, here at Blogger.
It's hard to be angry at her. She's obviously feeling her oats. I don't know how much of her business is a "come-on"..I just know, that I can forgive her "lies"
My feeling are very mixed.
I'm leaning towards forgiveness, but, like others, I will not send her money. I don't believe she's ill. She is studying in the Medical profession. It would be very easy, if this is true, to find a doctor, or ER, or treatment, without paying a dime.
They HAVE to treat you (that's the LAW)
Cheers,
res~~(i'll be back, sometime, I hope)
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